The Banishment of Suffering
"Willpower" is romantically considered to be the ultimate proof of emotional strength. We often associate "Willpower" with a certain level of martyrdom or suffering that entails championing over a dreaded task, deed or relationship.
The Sixth Factor of Achievement
The Misuse of Willpower
In truth, willpower is mostly used to maintain suffering. Good examples would be remaining in a job or relationship that does not bring happiness. In these instances personal integrity is often sacrificed to satisfy a perceived inward or outward influence.
"What would my family think" or, "How would I survive?"
Human beings tend to fool themselves that their martyrdom will in some way produce divine rewards for all that misery, but in reality, emotional turmoil and eventual illness will be the only reward.
The Mirror of Life - Story
Jenny was dealing with what many of us must deal with from time to time, a problematic relationship at work.
No matter what dialogues Jenny would open with the other female, agreement could never be reached and a domination match would result.
Jenny would find herself involved in any number of controlling scenarios ranging from direct confrontation to confusing silent treatments.
Jenny found that the situation was becoming all consuming. She could not sleep at night and was now reluctant to go to the office each day for fear of a confrontation. Jenny was also fearful of what others might be saying behind her back. Jenny thought she was exercising every bit of her Willpower to stay in the job, because what she really felt like, was fleeing for her life.
This "other" woman was, in Jenny's mind, making her life totally miserable. "She is attempting to undermine me in the office. I am powerless to stop her because I am not good in confrontation. I feel helpless and inferior."
The Willpower Exercise.
Time to take up your journal and ask yourself these life changing questions:
Question 1: If you dared to live a life that you truly loved - what changes would you make?
Question 2: Where do you use Willpower to remain stuck in any situation?
Question 3: Are you prepared to do whatever it takes, to be free of outer control and gain inner harmony?
Let us now move to the Seventh Factor of Achievement: INTUITION